If is a word that seems to imply ultimatum, If I do this for you than you have to do that. It isn’t a real great way to effective way to accomplish things that you need or want. Be straight with people and say something like this, when I do this would you like to kind of help me out a little and do that for me I would appreciate it so much. Someone may what to actually become involved in what you are doing willfully.

I know this is a bit controversial, but I am going to use this analogy because it has bothered me for years, since I was a kid. I used to go to church all the time and something always bothered me when it was quoted or read from the bible. For he who believes in him shall have everlasting life. If you believe in Jesus you can live forever no matter whom you are or what you do. Pretty cool I can do what ever I want to who ever I want and nothing will ever jeopardize my living forever. My big question was always what happens to those people that never heard of this what happens to people that never get the chance to hear about Jesus? I was always told that they don’t go to heaven they go to hell because they don’t believe. Do I have too much control of my thoughts? I’m sorry I just couldn’t accept that and actually don’t believe it to this day. From my understanding God has pure unconditional Love. I just couldn’t and still can’t make that work in my brain sorry. Unconditionally if you don’t believe you don’t receive, even if you never had the chance to hear about it, you don’t receive. Somehow I can’t connect an ultimatum as unconditional, hypocritical maybe.

I will leave this right here and not get into how I believe what I do right now. I think you see that the “if” word can be a bit destructive at times so use the word “when” to get things accomplished.
Brad West ~ onomoney